Your hearing loss is not an excuse

I have no children of my own, but I can imagine that parenting is not easy. Parents are tasked with looking after a human being, shaping the foundations of their personality and teaching them valuable life lessons. No pressure.

My parents are both hearing. They were not prepared to have a hearing-impaired child. But they had one, and they rolled with it. They taught me many lessons. In honour of Mother’s Day, I’m going to let you in on a life lesson that my mom taught me that I apply to my life every day.

Your hearing loss is not an excuse

One thing my mother hates is excuses. She has no patience for them. Post #4 - Mother's Day.png

When I was in high school, I came home really annoyed. I had a group project for a drama class that I was taking, and the class for the day was held outside in the field by a busy road, and I couldn’t hear what the teacher was saying. The constant rush of cars drowned out the teacher’s voice.

In typical teenage fashion, I told my mom that I thought that drama class sucked because I couldn’t hear, and that the project sucked anyways.

My mom rolled her eyes (as she should) and said, “you couldn’t hear? What are you going to do about it then?” She asked that every time I came home complaining about something related to my hearing.

Growing up, I was never allowed to use my hearing loss as an excuse. If I had trouble hearing, I had to find a way to do something about it. Following the example I gave you, the next day, drama class was held outside again, but beforehand, I mentioned to the teacher that I couldn’t hear very well with the cars. My teacher understood, and moved the class to the other side of the school, in a field farther away from the main road. I also made sure to stay at the front by the teacher, as opposed to farther away surrounded by groups of people.

My mom made sure I had a voice

By asking me “what are you going to do about it?”, she made me to think of solutions around my hearing loss and how to apply those solutions to everyday scenarios. My mom made sure I had a voice. My parents advocated for me when I was a child, because I couldn’t advocate for myself.

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My mom teaching me how to talk on the phone.

When the time came for me to be more independent, whether it came to school, parties, doing driving lessons etc. my parents told me that they weren’t going to be there to speak on my behalf, so I had to learn how to do it myself.

Learning how to speak for myself, and navigating between the wrong way and the right way of advocating for myself allowed me to fail, and to learn from those failures. I became more resilient and more comfortable with standing up for myself.

Now, I hate excuses too. I asked my mom about any other excuses that I tried to use on her when I was younger.

She told me how, when I was 13, I used to use the fact that I was a teenager to excuse my messy room.

She said, “So? You’re still a teenager with working hands, go clean.”

Personally, I still don’t think my room wasn’t THAT messy. Haha. But, you get the gist. The message is still the same – no matter what, always use the resources available to you to make things work. No excuses.

Thank you mom.

Thank you for reading! What are some of the valuable lessons that your parents taught you growing up?

 

 

 

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